Beyond toxic positivity
In hard times, urging people to be positive doesn’t boost their resilience. It denies their reality.
People in pain don’t need good vibes only. They need a hand to stay steady through all the vibrations.
Strength doesn’t come from forced smiles. It comes from feeling supported.
Over the past month, I’ve been diving into the science and practice of emotional authenticity and emotion regulation. Listen here:
Overcoming toxic positivity with Susan David: Apple | Spotify | Transcript
You have more control over your emotions than you think with Lisa Feldman Barrett: Apple | Spotify | Transcript
Of course, there’s a difference between welcoming unpleasant emotions and wielding them as weapons. If you haven’t read Chicken Littles are ruining America, it’s a powerful reminder that spreading doom and gloom is a self-fulfilling prophecy. No one needs constant positivity, but everyone needs a sense of possibility.
If you’re looking for new insights about how to solve problems, Bob Sutton has a wealth of insight on overcoming friction: Apple | Spotify | Transcript
And if you’re grappling with what’s next, Jared Cohen dives into how seven American presidents decided to use their time after leaving office: Apple | Spotify | Transcript
In solidarity,
Adam
"No one needs constant positivity, but everyone needs a sense of possibility."
This statement really captures the moment for me. Instead of a positive or stoicism, presenting a beacon of hope goes a longer way.
How can I help is one of my favorite responses because it takes all my assumptions and biases out of the conversation!