November 2020 Back by popular demand: Wondering. Every month, I'll weigh in on some of your questions about psychology, work, my work, and whatever else piques your curiosity. Submit here. Caveat: I'm reluctant to give advice. I keep noticing that some of the worst advice comes from the people who are the most eager to help. In their rush to give answers, they fail to ask enough questions to understand the dilemma. Giving advice is like solving a puzzle: it's best to gather all the pieces before trying to put them together.