Authenticity is not about expressing every opinion you hold. It's about ensuring that what you voice reflects what you value. If you prize respect and kindness, your comments shouldn't be filled with contempt and cruelty. Ideas are worth sharing when they represent your ideals.
Paywall on the NYT article-this error is enough to make me block the entire Granted message. It is never appropriate to swear but in his case all I can offer is a simple WTF?
The continued boost of James Clear is mystifying. Usually Adam’s recommendations are reliably experts in their fields; doctors, scientists, researchers. Clear appears to be just another blogger? No more an “expert” than any other self proclaimed social media influencer.
When did so many people come to rely on others for the answers to even minor challenging, or in most cases, frustrating situations? Asking for help with big problems. Yes. In the case of my son not liking chicken on the menu - what's wrong with saying "there's the refrigerator, fix whatever you'd like," or as we were told, "well, it's either chicken or hungry, you choose."
When we said ... "Mom, will you bring me a glass of water?" We heard 'what did your last maid die from - get it yourself.
Love my kids and grandkids - but the sooner they learn how life works, the easier it will be for them and everyone they come into contact with.
May i just say that I haven’t stopped thinking about your article on the language women use since I read it?! It has never crossed my mind that this double bind I’ve found myself in so many times might best be resolved by actually valuing the sugar I have poured over so many conversations. Of course, it takes a lot of work and sacrifice (at least initially) to use your mental effort and time to communicate this way. There are days when I just want to say what needs to be said and move on, like men do. Not unkindly, or with sarcasm, but directly. I have figured that this issue alone is why the men in my life seem to have so much more time. Did they stop to reread every line and consider all the outcomes? Did they think about how they would ask for that thing they needed to do their job at least 3 days or more before they actually addressed it because ...so many reasons? Yet, maybe the sugar is a kindly bit that makes the interpersonal softer and fosters cohesion among groups? I don’t know for sure, but I’m curious now to rethink how I view this way that women speak, to see it with more grace and less bitterness. That would be a nice change of focus, am I right? 😉
What we get wrong about parenting—and about women's “weak language”
Paywall on the NYT article-this error is enough to make me block the entire Granted message. It is never appropriate to swear but in his case all I can offer is a simple WTF?
The continued boost of James Clear is mystifying. Usually Adam’s recommendations are reliably experts in their fields; doctors, scientists, researchers. Clear appears to be just another blogger? No more an “expert” than any other self proclaimed social media influencer.
When did so many people come to rely on others for the answers to even minor challenging, or in most cases, frustrating situations? Asking for help with big problems. Yes. In the case of my son not liking chicken on the menu - what's wrong with saying "there's the refrigerator, fix whatever you'd like," or as we were told, "well, it's either chicken or hungry, you choose."
When we said ... "Mom, will you bring me a glass of water?" We heard 'what did your last maid die from - get it yourself.
Love my kids and grandkids - but the sooner they learn how life works, the easier it will be for them and everyone they come into contact with.
Oooh good stuff🙏🏼 Will be watching that TED talk this afternoon!
May i just say that I haven’t stopped thinking about your article on the language women use since I read it?! It has never crossed my mind that this double bind I’ve found myself in so many times might best be resolved by actually valuing the sugar I have poured over so many conversations. Of course, it takes a lot of work and sacrifice (at least initially) to use your mental effort and time to communicate this way. There are days when I just want to say what needs to be said and move on, like men do. Not unkindly, or with sarcasm, but directly. I have figured that this issue alone is why the men in my life seem to have so much more time. Did they stop to reread every line and consider all the outcomes? Did they think about how they would ask for that thing they needed to do their job at least 3 days or more before they actually addressed it because ...so many reasons? Yet, maybe the sugar is a kindly bit that makes the interpersonal softer and fosters cohesion among groups? I don’t know for sure, but I’m curious now to rethink how I view this way that women speak, to see it with more grace and less bitterness. That would be a nice change of focus, am I right? 😉
The Ted Talk is very helpful. Thanks for sharing.
The first couple of lines seems oversimplification. Most people have complex, nuanced, conflicted values. This complexity (and beauty) may get lost.