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GRANTED: Let's agree to disagree more often
Great mentors don’t tell you what to think. They teach you how to think.
Here are some of the articles that have shaped the way I think this month:
1. Research: For Better Brainstorming, Tell an Embarrassing Story
After brainstorming groups introduced themselves with embarrassing stories, they generated 26% more ideas and had 15% more variety.
2. Why We Should All Stop Saying "I Know Exactly How You Feel"
When someone is suffering, avoid saying "I know how you feel." We don't—and we should focus on their experience, not ours.
3. Why We Contradict Ourselves and Confound Each Other
Nobel Prize winner Danny Kahneman explains that overconfidence is a failure of imagination. If you want to improve your judgment, practice the art of imagining alternatives to your expectations.
4. A Stanford Psychologist On the Art of Avoiding Assholes
"One of the simplest—but admittedly hardest—things you can do is learn to not give a shit."
From My Desk:
5. Kids, Would You Please Start Fighting?
Too many parents teach kids to stay silent when they disagree. I object. Silence disrespects our ability to have a civil argument and it disrespects the value of your views.
“Let’s agree to disagree” shouldn’t end a discussion. It should start a new conversation, where the goal of understanding each other supersedes the goal of persuading each other.
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